Step 1) Conscious parenting really starts with you becoming conscious of your own emotions.
You can’t expect to respond to your child’s big feelings with calm and compassion if you’re wandering around in an unconscious fog yourself 🤷🏼♀️. If you are cut off or numb to your own emotions it is almost impossible to mirror back your child’s emotions authentically. Stop distracting yourself from your emotions and start FEELING them.
Step 2) Don’t expect parenting perfection.
Be kind and compassionate with yourself on this learning journey (just as you aim to be kind and compassionate with your children). It’s a practise. Your ‘spiritual practise’ as a mother. Each time you practise responding to tantrums with calm and compassion you are strengthening the neural pathways in your brain that support this response and with time it will get easier and easier.
Step 3) Meditate!
Seriously. The more you practice and use meditation techniques when you’re calm, the more you’ll be able to consciously choose them in more stressful times. Your body will automatically start remembering the calming responses you’ve taught it. If you don’t already have a daily meditation practise, it’s time to start one.
If you have any questions or would like some support with this, I’d love to hear from you! You can take a look at my meditation shop or get in touch through my Facebook group and I’ll get back to you as soon as possible.