I wanted to share about manipulation this evening and how I’ve come to realise that feeling manipulated by your kids is more about how YOU’RE feeling, than what your child is saying or doing.
I realised this today as my son was asking over and over for video game time…
Today I felt really clear and calm within myself that we weren’t going to have video games so there was no internal struggle for me and it didn’t feel ‘manipulative’ at all when he kept asking and asking.
At other times though, whether it’s about video games or wanting that lollipop at the supermarket check out, staying up later or wanting me to keep playing with him, I haven’t felt so sure, clear and calm within myself.
And it’s at those times that I might start to feel resentful, pulled in different directions, powerless, not listened to or like I’m being manipulated.
The thing to remember is that your child is not making you do or feel anything.
The way you respond is completely up to YOU. When you feel manipulated it’s because you’re not feeling clear within yourself on whatever the issue is. This isn’t your child’s fault. It’s your responsibility to work this out so that you can hold a clear and calm space for your child.
If you can become a witness to your internal ‘stories’ and reactions rather than letting them run the show…
Your child’s emotional storm will pass. And afterwards they will feel so much clearer, calmer and more cooperative. And then motherhood becomes so much easier! You don’t have to feel exhausted and pushed to your limits all the time.
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