The early evening can be pretty hard work. Many parents experience behaviours at this time of day that aren't so fun such as attention seeking, arguing, defiance or tantrums. Let me share a simple strategy that will support your child emotionally and reduce the amount of time you need to spend dealing with these types of behaviours (and the strategies won't take longer than 15 minutes!)
Imagine your child is crying over something that seems really trivial such as not being able to find the green pencil... We all know how frustrating this kind of thing can be! But before you roll your eyes let's talk about the REAL issue below the surface and how you can support your child with this...
Emotions and feeling them are a natural part of being human, even though they are sometimes painful... here's how to support your child's emotional wellbeing and foster emotional resilience.
I've come to realise that feeling manipulated by your kids is more about how YOU'RE feeling, than what your child is saying or doing. When you feel manipulated it's because you're not feeling clear within yourself on whatever the issue is. This isn't your child's fault. It's your responsibility to work this out so that you can hold a clear and calm space for your child...
You need to OWN your emotions (so your children don’t have to) This is is a bit of a longer post but worth the read, I promise! You’re going to walk away with some practical, tangible ways to get started with this right away. Children are highly sensitive, intuitive, emotional beings. They tend to be … Continue reading Want more calm and less chaos with your kids?
Conscious parenting is not about controlling your kids... it’s about guiding behaviour in such a way that everyone (including you!) gets their needs met and feels like they’re winning. Here's how:
How you can (easily) use play to help your child work through their fears and feelings. Play is your secret weapon to creating a more harmonious home during any time of transition, change or emotional stress #hello2020 This post is about how I used play to help my son work through anxiety about the pool, but you can use the same principles for just about any childhood issue. When we work with our kids emotions rather than against them , parenting becomes a whole lot easier and more enjoyable! Read more:
Do you find it tricky to shift from work mode into ‘mum mode’?Finding yourself feeling frustrated with the same parenting challenges and conflicts coming up day after day? As a conscious, heart centred woman, parenting should just flow… right? So why is it not working??? I can almost guarantee that the issue you’re overlooking is emotional and the good news is, I can help you with that!
Sometimes, things will happen with your kids that can bring up old feelings you may still have trapped in the body from childhood. This is where you might overreact or have big disproportionate reactions, feelings and thoughts. You might find yourself saying or doing things that you never thought you would!Of course, being a mum doesn’t stop. If you have babies/ toddlers/ preschoolers at home you most likely don’t have the luxury of much quiet space to yourself for processing! So, it’s important to have some steps up your sleeve to help you process your triggers and get back to the present moment right away.
Punishments and rewards take away from your child’s internal compass (what is right/ wrong) and intrinsic motivation. This doesn’t mean you let your child do whatever they like! You can still guide your child’s behaviour in a peaceful way WITHOUT the use of punishments and rewards. The more you practise and get comfortable with this skill while you're calm, the more your brain is creating and strengthening new neural pathways. And the stronger those neural pathways become the more you're going to be able to start drawing on this response in times of stress...