Aware Parenting is based on the work of Dr. Aletha Solter and is one of the main philosophies underpinning my work.

Aware Parenting is a philosophy of child-rearing that has the potential to change the world. Based on cutting-edge research and insights in child development, Aware Parenting questions most traditional assumptions about raising children, and proposes a new approach that can profoundly shift a parent’s relationship with his or her child. Parents who follow this approach raise children who are bright, compassionate, competent and non-violent.

The 3 aspects of Aware Parenting:

  1. Attachment Style Parenting

– Natural childbirth and early bonding
– Plenty of physical contact
– Prolonged breast-feeding
– Prompt responsiveness to crying
– Sensitive attunement

2. Non Punitive Discipline

– No punishments of any kind (including spanking, “time-out”, and artificial “consequences”)
– No rewards or bribes
– A search for underlying needs and feelings
– Anger management for parents
– Peaceful conflict-resolution (family meetings, mediation, etc.)

3. Healing from Stress and Trauma

– Recognition of stress and trauma (including unmet needs) as primary causes of behavioral and emotional problems
– Emphasis on prevention of stress and trauma
– Recognition of the healing effects of play, laughter, and crying in the context of a loving parent/child relationship
– Respectful, empathic listening and acceptance of children’s emotions

See Dr. Aletha Solter’s books or website for more information on Aware Parenting

The Aware Baby
Helping Young Children Flourish
Tears and Tantrums
Raising Drug-Free Kids
Attachment Play